Long-form essays on attachment, racial trauma, code-switching, and the slow clinical work of repair. Written for the Black men I sit with in practice — and the men I will never get to.
Why living the Word is hard — caught between culture, the mind, and the room.
Most believers do not stop reading the Word. They stop implementing it. The gap between what we believe and how we live is the most common spiritual struggle. Naming the three headwinds is the first move toward moving through them.
What current research says about lust, masculinity, and the loneliness underneath it.
The man carrying lust is not weak. He is doing something on autopilot that began as an attempt to meet a real need — and the need underneath the behavior is almost never sex. The research is clear. The path out is well-mapped.
What the research says about therapy for men — and what most never tell you they need.
Men go to therapy less than women. The cost is documented — men die by suicide at four times the rate. The relevant question is not statistical. It is practical: what would therapy actually do for me, and why is it worth starting?
Why so many Black men are lonely in plain sight.
Every Black man I have sat across from in clinical practice has a room inside him he has not entered in twenty years. The door is locked. He does not have the key. He is not sure he wants it.
What your grandfather's nervous system left you.
Your grandfather lowered his eyes when the sheriff drove by. You don't remember that. But your nervous system does. You are walking around in armor your grandfather welded in 1955 and his grandfather welded in 1885.
Code-switching is not a metaphor. It is a neurological event.
DuBois named it in 1903. He thought he was diagnosing a sociological condition. He was actually diagnosing a neurological one. By forty, the body has been doing the math of being two men for so long that the bill is finally coming due.
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